It’s in vogue to be a modern, sensitive kind of guy these days, but I think it’s a little bit contrary to how we’re cut out. That testosterone is the stuff that gives men the strange characteristics that make men … well men!
Testosterone, The Secret Ingredient of Male Creativity
Men are risk-takers, love danger, and more often than not, ignore pain. Testosterone is what makes us aggressive both in business and in bed. It’s what gives us the ability to persuade someone into a big buck contract as well as persuade our dear wives to make love on the beach under the stars. Risk and conquest. Danger and innovation.
Really, it’s the guy that needs to keep the passion ablaze in a marriage because it’s his God-given, male, sexual aggression that captures the softer, safer sexual nature of women. Men are physically created for aggression: his penis gives and takes control while her vagina receives and submits to his love. Knowing that makes us confident in our role. Passivity and the modern, sensitive, caring guy isn’t always the best way. Kindness is always right, but a sexually passive guy lets sexuality die.
In the same way, it’s the man who recreates the sexual relationship in a couple. Just like the creative side of a woman creates and recreates a home, the guy keeps sex interesting. Think of it — you bring home a new sex toy and she looks at you cross-eyed. “You want me to do what?” Hey dude, don’t be dissuaded. It’s your God-given role in the sexual relationship! Paint the picture bigger, bolder, and better! She’ll love it. Give it time.