I love it when performing musicians want you to clap in rhythm with the music. I’m the guy that’s clapping on the offbeat or even worse not on any beat. I work at it for a few seconds and I finally get in sync with everyone else.
If there’s anything I’ve consistently struggled to do it’s finding my stride in living — get some kind of rhythm. Oh, it would be nice.
It would be nice if the rhythm felt good. I think I fight the way I’m hard-wired which is to be out of sync with those around me. Yeah. Contrary. Usually not to be obstinate, but just because I see things differently. I am, in the end, cooperative.
Maybe, though, for me out of sync in some ways is good so that at least someone sees those other perspectives and can draw attention to beauty and ideas which otherwise might be missed? It’s tiring, though. I don’t sleep a lot.
But there’s also a rhythm of the soul which I think is important for each of us. It’s reflected in our sex, in our worship.
A praying man rocks. A worshiping man dances or sings because his soul longs to sync with God.
As I wrote the book about masturbation this past year, I saw how deeply rhythm runs in a guy. Not only do all kinds of sexual stimulation find rhythmic patterns but our bodies and souls catch the beat: breath, heartbeat, orgasmic waves, body pulsations, and rushes of semen all in a sort of sync with orchestral sexual energy.
What’s beautiful is when you can couple your rhythm with your lover’s rhythm and your bodies and souls find their stride together. When this happens, you know. You just know, and you feel you’ve grown as a man and you feel like you’re part of something bigger than you or even the two of you.
You need to pay attention to your rhythm. Like me clapping to the music, when it’s off, it’s really off, but in a few seconds, you get it. All aspects of the soul need to find their rhythm — writing in your journal in the morning; a quiet walk in the evening; time in meditation or prayer; and sexual hours strumming the rhythmic strings of your soul.
I’m pleased to say that after nine months of sometimes unrhythmic labor of my soul, I’ve uploaded my latest book. What Guys Do: 101 Male Masturbation Techniques I think it is beautiful. It’s loaded with fantastic solo sex ideas and techniques, articles to help you find your stride in self-pleasure as well as some great photography. Click here! pick one up for yourself or your lover and enjoy!